Rules for dating a jewish girl
23, 2009, on the shores of Lake Winnipesaukee in New Hampshire. *** Soon after my bar mitzvah, just as I was discovering my interest in the opposite sex, I began to be bombarded with information about intermarriage—about how one in every two Jewish people would marry a non-Jew and how more than half of the children of those unions would not be raised Jewish. But as I fell in love with her, she fell in love with me—and with my Judaism as well., an online newspaper for Orthodox Jewish college students, I had received several submissions like this before, and I braced myself for yet another lament on dating.But as I continued to read through the article, I saw that it actually discussed a very relevant issue that has confronted many in my community.In Vayikra Chapter 25 verse 17, the Torah commands: “And you shall not hurt (the feelings of) one another and you shall fear Hashem, for I, Hashem, am thy Lord.” Rav Hirsch explains that since the prohibition in an earlier verse (14) refers to hurting another financially, this verse cannot possibly mean the same.Therefore, Rav Hirsch concludes that it is an extension of the prohibition of hurting someone in business dealings, which includes the prohibition of hurting someone’s feelings either by words or by deeds.Last summer, I experienced this pressure first-hand.
She wrote, "Whether or not you agree with system, the system remains the same." The "system" to which this woman referred is the Orthodox Jewish world of dating and all of the pressure it exerts on those attempting to navigate through it.The position the rabbi advocated was completely out of touch with my reality, and as far as I could see, he seemed unwilling to even consider the needs of a diverse and changing community.As repeatedly shown in the media, Orthodox Judaism is notorious for its emphasis on marriage, and true to this reputation, our leaders tend to advocate marriage at a young age.There is no reference to excommunication or dissolving such marriages either in chapter 10, 13 or elsewhere in Nehemiah.Forced divorce and excommunication of foreign women previously married to the Jews of Israel does ocur in Ezra chapter 10.